Below you’ll find 12 sex positions that can work well for bigger bodies, plus tips on body confidence, joint comfort, and how to adapt things when one or both partners are plus-size.

First: A Word on Body Confidence

Many people who live in larger bodies tell the same story: physically they can have sex, but emotionally they feel…

• Nervous about “how they look”
• Afraid of being judged
• Worried about being “too heavy”
• Distracted by negative thoughts instead of pleasure

Some grounding truths:

• You’re not the only one. People of all sizes – including those who look “perfect” on social media – struggle with body insecurity.
• Your partner is often more focused on themselves than on you. Many are busy thinking about their own stomach, their own stretch marks, their own performance.
• Desire is about connection, not measurements. If your partner is choosing to be naked with you, they are choosing you – not a photoshopped version.
• Experience builds confidence. The more you practice focusing on what feels good, the easier it becomes to quiet that inner critic.

Helpful quick resets before sex:

• Dim the lights or use soft lighting if that helps you relax.
• Have 2–3 “go-to” positions you know feel safe and comfy.
• Focus extra on kissing, touch, and foreplay so you’re more in your body than in your head.
• Choose lingerie or sleepwear that makes you feel supported and sexy, not squeezed and distracted.

12 Plus-Size Friendly Sex Positions

Use these as starting points, not strict rules. Add pillows, change angles, slow down, or switch whenever you need. All descriptions can be used with a penis, toys, or a strap-on – adapt the language to your relationship.

1. “Washing Machine” – Leaned-Over Vibes

The idea: one partner stands and leans their upper body over a sturdy surface (like a washing machine, table, or countertop), while the other partner enters from behind.

Why it helps:

• The receiving partner’s belly has room to hang naturally instead of being squashed.
• The angle can give deeper penetration and easy access to the buttocks and lower back for touch.
• If you actually use a running washing machine, the subtle vibration on the pelvis can feel nice for some people.

Comfort & safety tips:

• Make sure the surface is very stable (don’t rely on fragile or wall-mounted fixtures).
• The leaning partner can slightly bend their knees to ease pressure on the lower back.
• If buttocks or thighs make access tricky, they can gently use their hands to spread or adjust their stance wider.

2. Spread Legs – Deep-Access Missionary

The receiving partner lies on their back, brings their knees toward their chest, and opens their thighs, while the penetrating partner kneels in front (similar to missionary, but with legs higher).

Why it helps:

• Bringing the legs up and open can make penetration easier past soft bellies or thighs.
• The angle can increase G-spot contact for some people.

Comfort tips (especially if the receiver is plus-size):

• Use a firm pillow or folded blanket under the hips to reduce strain and adjust the angle.
• The partner on top should avoid pushing legs back too hard; check in about pressure on hips and lower back.
• Holding behind the knees (not the ankles) can feel more supported for heavier or less flexible legs.

3. Face Sitting / Queening – Receiving Oral on Top

One partner lies on their back; the other kneels or squats over their mouth to receive oral sex. This can feel especially powerful for anyone who enjoys being more in control.

Plus-size considerations for the partner on top:

• Instead of “full weight” on your partner’s face, keep some weight on your thighs or use a headboard/wall for support.
• Start in a higher hover and slowly lower based on what feels safe and comfortable for both of you.
• Agree on a clear signal (hand squeeze, tapping your thigh) that the partner underneath can use if they need a break.

For the partner underneath:

• Use your hands on their thighs/hips to guide pressure and depth.
• Have a small pillow under your neck or shoulders if the angle feels intense.

Consent and breathing safety are key here – check in often.

4. Cowgirl – Classic On-Top Confidence

The penetrating partner lies on their back; the receiving partner straddles their hips and rides in their own rhythm. This is one of the most adaptable positions for people in bigger bodies.

Why it’s great for overweight partners on top:

• You control depth, speed, and angle – you can stop anytime.
• You choose how much weight rests on their hips vs your knees.
• It’s easy to bring a hand or toy to the clitoris if that helps you orgasm.

Adaptations:

• Place a pillow under the partner on the bottom’s hips so their pelvis is higher and easier to reach.
• Focus on rocking and grinding, not bouncing – it’s easier on joints and often more pleasurable.
• If you feel shy about eye contact, try starting in Reverse Cowgirl (facing their feet) then switch later if you want.

5. Jockey – Prone Relaxed Ride

The receiving partner lies flat on their stomach with legs together; the penetrating partner straddles their hips from behind and enters in the same direction.

Why it works well:

• The receiver’s belly and chest are supported by the bed.
• The partner on top can decide how much of their body weight to rest down.
• The receiver can gently squeeze their thighs together to increase internal sensation.

Comfort tips:

• A pillow under the hips can lift the pelvis and make penetration smoother.
• If the top partner has a larger belly, staying more upright (not fully laying on the receiver) often gives more space.

6. Doggy Style – A Curves Classic

The receiving partner is on hands and knees; the penetrating partner kneels behind and enters from the back. This is a classic for a reason: it tends to work across many body shapes.

For a plus-size receiver:

• Try dropping to your elbows or resting your chest on pillows and arching your lower back – this often opens access.
• If knees are sensitive, place a folded blanket or cushion beneath them, or use a wedge pillow under hips instead.

For a plus-size penetrative partner:

• Stand or kneel a little further back and lean slightly upright to give your belly more room.
• Use your hands on their hips or buttocks both for balance and to adjust angle gently.

7. Corner Doggy – Edge-of-the-Bed Support

The receiving partner straddles the corner of the bed, one leg each side of the corner, leaning their chest on the mattress; the penetrating partner stands or kneels behind.

Why plus-size bodies often like it:

• The bed edge lifts the pelvis slightly, helping with alignment.
• The receiver’s upper body is well supported, which can reduce wrist and shoulder strain.
• The corner creates natural space between thighs and tummy.

Tips:

• The receiver can experiment with how far they lean forward to open or close the angle.
• The top partner can stay more upright to keep their own core and lower back comfortable.

8. Turtle – Chest-Down, Hips-High

A variation of doggy where the receiving partner brings their chest fully down to the bed and lifts their hips higher, often tucking knees closer toward their torso.

Why it can be intense and enjoyable:

• Raises the pelvis, which often deepens sensation.
• Gives the partner behind a clearer view and access to the hips and lower back.

Plus-size comfort notes:

• Only go as far as your joints comfortably allow; do not force your chest to your knees.
• Use pillows under your chest or belly if you need more support.
• Some receivers like having a hand free in front for their own clitoral stimulation while in this shape.

9. Sideways Turtle – Curled on Your Side

The receiving partner lies on their side and pulls both knees somewhat toward their chest; the penetrating partner kneels behind and enters from the back/side.

Benefits:

• Less pressure on wrists, shoulders, and knees than the upright Turtle.
• Curves and belly have space to rest on the bed rather than hanging.

Adapt:

• Place a pillow under the top knee or between thighs for extra comfort and a slight hip lift.
• The penetrative partner can stay upright, or lean in and rest one hand on the mattress for stability.

10. Reverse Cowgirl – On Top, Facing Away

The penetrating partner lies on their back; the receiver straddles them but faces toward their feet.

Why it’s friendly to plus-size riders:

• Some people feel less self-conscious when not making constant eye contact.
• The angle can change which internal areas are stimulated, which some bodies prefer.
• You can lean forwards onto your hands or pillows to reduce strain on your thighs.

For the partner underneath:

• A pillow under your hips can lift your pelvis and make access easier if bellies are soft.
• Use your hands on their hips to help guide rhythm gently, if they enjoy that.

11. Betty Rocker – Low Lean Reverse

A lower, more “folded” version of Reverse Cowgirl: the receiving partner is on top, facing away, with their chest leaning down toward your legs, often resting on forearms or elbows.

Why it works:

• Brings the receiver’s center of gravity lower, which can make it easier to maintain the position.
• Gives the partner below a full view of hips and back, which many enjoy.

Comfort ideas:

• The rider can rest their chest on a pillow or the partner’s thighs for more support.
• The partner below may want a cushion under their hips to reduce lower-back strain.

12. Pretzel – Opened Hip Side Position

The receiving partner lies on their side. The lower leg is straight, while the top leg bends upward so the knee comes toward their chest. The penetrative partner straddles the straight lower leg and enters from the front/side.

Why plus-size bodies tend to like it:

• Opens the pelvis nicely, making access easier around soft thighs and bellies.
• Receiver’s upper body can fully relax on pillows while the partner does more of the movement.

Adaptations:

• The receiver can play with how high the top knee is: closer to the chest for a deeper angle, or lower if hips feel tight.
• Hands are free for clitoral stimulation or gentle touch on chest, stomach, or sides.

Adapting Positions When One or Both Partners Are Bigger

The secret to great plus-size sex usually isn’t inventing wild positions; it’s modifying classics so they fit your real bodies:

• Pillows under hips – lift the pelvis, improve angles, reduce belly-to-belly pressure.
• Cushions under knees or elbows – protect joints and make kneeling positions sustainable.
• Edge of the bed or sturdy chair – can make height alignment much easier.
• Leaning vs. squatting – using furniture to support some weight is kinder to your knees than “hovering”.
• Side-lying positions – often more comfortable when both partners are bigger.

Safety & Comfort Checks

A few practical reminders before you turn the heat up:

• Check weight limits. Sex swings, door harnesses, or specialty furniture all have maximum loads – if it’s supporting one or both of you, make sure you’re safely within range.
• Respect your joints. If your knees, hips, or back are complaining, switch positions instead of pushing through pain.
• No hanging off random fixtures. Towel racks, shower heads, and glass rails are not designed to hold body weight.
• Stay honest in the moment. “This angle is too much for my hip” or “I’m losing my breath here, can we shift?” is absolutely okay to say.

Talking About What Works for Your Body

The best position is the one where both of you feel safe enough to speak up. Simple phrases can make a big difference:

• “My knee’s starting to hurt, can we try a side-lying one?”
• “I love this, but I’d like a pillow under my hips.”
• “Can you slow down a bit? It feels better that way for me.”
• “I’d feel more comfortable on top if we dim the lights.”

A partner who cares about you wants your body to feel safe, supported, and genuinely pleasured – at any size.

Final Word from Daisycle

Your weight does not cancel your right to good sex. You don’t have to become a different size to deserve comfort, connection, and satisfying orgasms.

Use these 12 positions as a menu, not a checklist. Keep what feels good, ignore what doesn’t, adjust as much as you need, and let your body – exactly as it is today – be invited into pleasure, not punished by it.