(That Actually Feel Good)

If you’re plus-size (or you identify as a BBW / big beautiful woman), you might find that some positions look great on screen but feel uncomfortable, unbalanced or just don’t work with your curves in real life.

This guide walks through 7 sex positions that can work really well for bigger bodies, plus practical tips on:

• How to adapt positions using pillows, angles and furniture
• How to protect your joints and back
• How to feel more confident and present in your body during sex

Before You Start: A Quick Plus-Size Sex Pep Talk

Your body is not “too much” for pleasure. Your size is not a problem to solve. The goal is not to force yourself into acrobatic positions designed for someone else’s body, but to find shapes that support your comfort, breath and pleasure.

Things that often help plus-size sex feel better:

• Pillows & cushions – to lift hips, support knees, or prop backs.
• Slower pacing – so you’re not fighting for balance or breath.
• Good lube – to reduce friction and help you go longer comfortably.
• Honest communication – “this angle hurts”, “that feels amazing”, “let’s try it this way.”

7 Sex Positions That Often Work Well for Bigger Bodies

You can adapt these for penis–vagina sex, with toys, or with a strap-on. Swap “he/him” for “they/them” to fit your relationship.

1. Doggy Style – Curves-Friendly & G-Spot Friendly

In classic doggy, you’re on hands and knees (or supported on pillows) while your partner enters you from behind. For many plus-size people, this works well because:

• Your belly is hanging naturally rather than being compressed.
• Your partner doesn’t need to navigate around stomach-to-stomach contact.
• The angle often gives good access to the G-spot on the front wall of the vagina.

Comfort tweaks:

• Place one or two firm pillows under your chest or hips if your wrists, shoulders or knees get tired.
• If you have a bigger butt and your partner is further away, have them kneel on a cushion or scoot closer so they’re not straining.
• Keep your knees wider if that feels stable, or slightly closer together if you want more snug friction.

2. Cowgirl – Yes, You Can Be on Top

Cowgirl = your partner lies on their back while you straddle their hips and control the movement. Many plus-size women avoid this because of body image worries, but from a comfort and pleasure point of view, it’s one of the best positions for bigger bodies:

• You’re in charge of depth, angle and speed.
• You can choose how much weight you rest on their body vs your knees.
• Your clitoris can easily rub against their pelvis, or you can reach down to stimulate it with your hand or toy.

Comfort tweaks:

• Ask your partner to put a firm pillow under their hips so their pelvis is higher and easier to reach.
• You don’t have to “bounce”. Many people prefer gentle grinding and rocking — less work, more pleasure.
• If you feel shy, start in dimmer light or wearing lingerie until your confidence grows.

Remember: your partner already knows what your body looks like. If they’re inviting you on top, they want you there.

3. Spooning – Low-Effort, Full-Body Contact

In spooning, you lie on your side and your partner lies behind you, entering you from the back. It’s gentle on joints and can be great for days when energy is low or you want more cuddly intimacy.

Why it often works for plus-size bodies:

• Your belly is supported by the bed rather than hanging or being squeezed between you.
• Your back and hips are more relaxed than in more upright positions.
• It’s easy to adjust angles by shifting your pelvis or upper body slightly.

Comfort tweaks:

• Have your partner lean their upper body slightly away from you or shift their hips back for easier penetration.
• Try lifting your top leg and resting it on a pillow, their thigh, or even up toward your chest, to open your hips.
• Use your front hand to rub your clitoris while they focus on a steady rhythm.

4. Leg Glider – Side-Lying with a Raised Leg

Leg Glider is like a cross between spooning and missionary:

• You lie mostly on your side or slightly on your back.
• You lift your top leg toward the ceiling or rest it along your partner’s shoulder/side.
• Your partner kneels or stands between your thighs and enters from the front or slightly side-on.

Why it helps:

• Your tummy has space to soften to the side instead of being pushed up toward your chest.
• Your partner has a clear path between your thighs, even if you’re thick-thighed.
• You can relax your upper body on pillows while still getting decent penetration.

This position also leaves feet, calves and thighs very accessible — if you or your partner enjoy leg massage or gentle foot play, this can be a sweet place to add it.

5. Thigh Ride (Thigh Tide) – Grind-Friendly Reverse Cowgirl

Thigh Ride is a reverse cowgirl variation:

• Your partner lies on their back.
• You straddle them facing their feet.
• They bend one knee so their foot is flat on the bed, raising their thigh.

This gives you a firm surface (their thigh) to grind your clitoris against while they’re inside you (or while using a toy). It often works beautifully for bigger bodies because:

• You can lean more of your weight on their leg instead of hovering.
• You can hold onto their knee or ankle for balance.
• You decide how intense and how fast to move.

6. Butterfly – Edge-of-the-Bed Support

Butterfly works best if your partner is standing or kneeling at the side/foot of the bed while you lie on your back:

• Scoot your butt right to the edge of the mattress.
• Your partner stands or kneels between your legs and enters from there.
• Your legs can be raised, straight out, or wrapped around their waist.

Plus-size comfort tips:

• Rather than pushing your knees hard toward your chest (which can squish your tummy and chest), try keeping your legs more straight or just softly bent.
• Use your hands or their hands to support your thighs so they don’t feel heavy.
• If lying on your back is uncomfortable, try tilting to one side and letting one cheek rest on the edge — essentially a mix of Butterfly and Leg Glider.

If you roll onto your stomach at the edge of the bed instead, with them entering from behind, you’ve moved into a “Superwoman” style variation, which can also work well for thicker hips and thighs.

7. Deep Impact – Lifted Hips, Less Strain

Deep Impact is somewhere between classic missionary and a “legs up” position:

• Your partner kneels between your legs.
• They lift your hips so your butt rests on their thighs instead of the bed.
• Your back and shoulders stay supported on the mattress.

Lifting your hips brings your genitals closer to them, often making penetration easier if bellies, thighs, or pubic areas are very soft or full. It also changes the angle for deeper sensation if that’s something you enjoy.

Leg options:

• Feet resting on their chest or shoulders.
• Legs wrapped loosely around their waist.
• Knees bent with feet flat on the bed if your legs are long enough.

What If You’re Both Plus-Size?

Two larger bodies can absolutely have great sex — it just means being more intentional about positions where no one has to “hold” the other’s full weight.

In general:

• On-top positions (Cowgirl, Reverse Cowgirl, Thigh Ride) often work better than him/they on top if both of you have bellies.
• Side-lying positions (spooning, Leg Glider) reduce pressure on joints and make breath control easier.
• Furniture & firm surfaces (the floor with cushions, a sturdy ottoman, sex wedge pillow) can be more supportive than a very soft mattress.

If one or both of you have mobility issues, chronic pain, or joint sensitivity, it can help to talk about that openly and treat sex as a collaborative experiment rather than a performance.

Riding Anxiety: “Can I Really Get on Top?”

Many plus-size women worry they’ll hurt their partner or “crush” them if they ride. In reality, as long as both of you feel physically safe and comfortable, it’s usually more than fine.

To make it feel safer:

• Let your partner lie on a firm surface so they feel well-supported.
• Use your feet or knees on either side of their hips so you’re not dropping all your weight straight down.
• Start with slow rocking and grinding, not fast bouncing.
• Ask them to tell you if anything feels uncomfortable — genuine partners will be honest and kind.

If you feel self-conscious about jiggling, remember: movement is a sign of life. Softness, curves, and motion are often exactly what your partner finds attractive.

Modifying Positions for Bigger Bodies

Almost any “standard” position can be adapted for plus-size bodies with a few simple tricks:

• Pillows under hips – lift your pelvis, change penetration angle, reduce belly-to-belly squish.
• Pillows under knees – reduce pressure on knees in doggy/kneeling positions.
• Scooting to the edge of the bed – gives your partner better access and changes the angle.
• Kneeling instead of fully lying down – helps if tummy or breasts feel compressed.
• Leaning over furniture – a sturdy chair, table, or countertop can support your weight better than you trying to squat.
• Lifting one leg – opens the pelvis and thighs, creates more space for penetration.

It’s okay if it takes a few tries to figure out what works for your bodies together. That doesn’t mean you’re “bad at sex” — it just means you’re human.

Safety & Comfort Checks for Plus-Size Sex

A few things to keep in mind so fun doesn’t turn into injury:

• Weight limits matter. If you’re using a sex swing, door harness, or speciality furniture, check the maximum load and remember to factor in the combined weight of both partners if it’s supporting both of you.
• House fixtures are not sex furniture. Towel racks, shower heads, glass doors, and faucets are not designed to hold body weight. Use grab bars rated for weight, or keep more intense activity to solid surfaces.
• Don’t force painful angles. If your hips, back, or knees are complaining, listen. Switch positions instead of pushing through.
• Check in about breath. If any position makes breathing feel restricted (for example, belly pressed hard into chest), adjust pillows or switch.

Talking About What Works (and What Doesn’t)

The most important “position” is the one where you feel safe to say: “This hurts,” “Can we try something else?” “I like it more like this.”

Some simple, low-pressure phrases you can use:

• “This angle is a bit much for my knees, can we add a pillow?”
• “I feel more comfortable on my side, want to try spooning?”
• “I love when you hold my hips like that — more of that, please.”
• “Can we add a toy / more lube / a pillow under my hips?”

A partner who respects you will want to know how to make sex feel better for you — including with your real, soft, beautiful body.

A Loving Reminder from Daisycle

Being plus-size doesn’t put you on the outside of pleasure. You don’t have to wait to lose weight to deserve satisfying, connected, joyful sex.

Try these positions one by one, adjust them freely, keep what feels good and completely ignore what doesn’t. Your body, your pace, your comfort. That’s where the best sex starts.