First Truth: Any Penetrative Sex Can Lead to Pregnancy

Before we talk positions, a quick reality check: any penis-in-vagina sex without reliable contraception can lead to pregnancy, even if you don’t use a specific “fertility position.” Sperm are strong swimmers – once ejaculation happens inside the vagina, they know where they’re going.

Positions don’t guarantee pregnancy, but some may make it a bit easier for sperm to pool near the cervix and start their journey.

1. Classic Missionary (With a Pillow Hack)

Missionary (you lying on your back, partner on top) is simple, intimate, and can be very conception-friendly.

Try this: place a small, firm pillow or folded towel under your hips to tilt your pelvis slightly upward. This can:

• Allow deeper penetration
• Help semen pool near the cervix after ejaculation

You don’t need to stay in that position for long after sex; if it feels nice, you can relax there for a few minutes, but it’s not mandatory to lie with your legs up the wall for half an hour.

2. “Deep Impact” Style Positions

Any position where your hips are slightly elevated and your partner kneels or stands closer to your pelvis can bring the tip of the penis nearer to the cervix. Examples include:

• Hips-elevated missionary: your hips on a pillow, partner kneeling between your legs.
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• Edge-of-bed: you lying near the edge of the bed, partner standing or kneeling on the floor.
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The goal isn’t acrobatic sex, just comfortable angles that feel good for both of you.

3. Side-lying (Spooning) for Gentle, Connected Sex

Side-lying positions (like spooning) are more about relaxation than depth, but they can still work well when:

• You’re tired, anxious, or in pain but still want intimacy
• You want slower, more emotional sex rather than focused “baby-making” pressure

Emotional safety, low stress, and feeling close to your partner also support conception by reducing stress hormones that can affect your cycle.

4. Positions You Actually Enjoy

This is huge: feeling aroused, relaxed, and cared for matters. Your natural lubrication, blood flow to the pelvis, and ability to climax can all improve when sex feels good, not mechanical.

If a certain position helps you enjoy sex more – whether that’s being on top, from behind, or face-to-face – it’s still valuable. Pleasure is not separate from fertility; your comfort matters.

After-Sex Myths & What Actually Helps

• You do NOT have to: do handstands, put your legs straight up the wall, or stay frozen for 30 minutes.
• You can, if it feels relaxing: lie on your back with your hips slightly elevated for 5–10 minutes to cuddle, breathe, or just enjoy the moment.
• What really helps: timing sex around your fertile window, tracking ovulation, and addressing any underlying fertility issues with a healthcare provider if you’ve been trying for a while.

Consent, Protection & Choice

If you are not trying to conceive, the same positions can still feel amazing – just pair them with contraception that fits your life (condoms, pills, IUD, etc.). Your pleasure is valid with or without the goal of pregnancy.