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Sex should feel good for you too. If penetration doesn’t always lead to orgasm for you, you’re definitely not alone — and it’s not because your body is “broken.” Very often, it’s because the positions you use don’t give your clitoris or G-spot enough attention.

In this guide, you’ll learn:

• Why many women don’t orgasm from penetration alone
• How your clitoris, G-spot and anatomy affect orgasm
• 7 sex positions that make orgasm more likely
• Practical, kind tips to help you enjoy sex more (with or without orgasm)

Why You Might Not Orgasm During Penetrative Sex

A lot of people are taught that “real sex” starts when a penis enters a vagina. The problem is: most women’s bodies don’t work that way. Many people with vulvas need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and standard penetration often doesn’t touch the clitoris enough.

The clitoris isn’t just the small part you see on the outside — it’s a larger organ that branches internally. The part you can see (the glans) sits above the vaginal opening, not inside it. So if you only focus on deep thrusting, the clitoris may be left out of the action.

Some women find penetration alone enough because:

• Their clitoris sits closer to the vaginal opening, so movement during sex rubs it.
• The position they use puts pressure on the internal part of the clitoris, often called the G-spot.

For many others, orgasm comes easier when:

• The clitoris is touched directly by fingers, a toy or the partner’s body.
• The position allows grinding rather than only in-and-out thrusting.
• Pillows, angles and rhythm are adjusted with their pleasure in mind.

The goal of this article is not to tell you what you “should” enjoy, but to give you options so you can experiment and find what feels best in your own body.

The 7 Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasm

You can try these positions with a penis-owning partner, a strap-on, or a toy. Swap “him” for “them” or “partner” to fit your relationship — Daisycle is for everyone with a cycle.

1. Cowgirl – You on Top, You in Control

In Cowgirl, your partner lies on their back while you sit on top, facing them. This position is popular for female orgasm because:

• You control the depth, angle and speed.
• You can lean forward, sit upright, or lean back until you find the angle that hits just right.
• Your hands are free to stimulate your clitoris or hold a small vibrator against it.

Tip: Ask your partner to place two fingers around the base of their penis (or toy) so their knuckles or hand create a firm surface in front of your clitoris. As you rock, you can gently grind against their hand for extra stimulation.

Body kindness note: If being on top makes you feel shy, start slowly. You don’t have to bounce dramatically — small, steady grinding movements are more than enough for many people to orgasm.

2. Doggy Style – Great for G-Spot Focus

Doggy style means you’re on your hands and knees (or supported on pillows) while your partner enters you from behind. For many women, this angle puts more pressure on the front wall of the vagina, where the G-spot sits.

Why it can be great:

• Deep internal stimulation that can feel intense and satisfying.
• Lots of open space in front for your hand or a partner’s hand to reach your clitoris.
• Pillows can support your body so you can relax instead of bracing your muscles.

Try: Place a firm pillow under your chest or hips so you feel stable. Use your free hand to gently rub your clitoris in circles while your partner maintains a steady rhythm.

3. Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) – Missionary, Upgraded

The Coital Alignment Technique is a twist on missionary designed to bring your clitoris into the action.

How it differs from regular missionary:

• Your partner shifts their body slightly higher up on you instead of lining up straight with your hips.
• You lift your hips a little (a pillow under your butt helps) so your clitoris meets their pubic bone.
• Instead of strong in-and-out thrusts, they use a rocking motion, sliding their pelvis along your clitoral area.

The goal is less about “pounding” and more about continuous, steady pressure and friction where you’re actually sensitive: your clitoris.

4. Lotus – Slow, Intimate & Deep

Lotus is a seated, face-to-face position. Your partner sits up with their legs crossed or slightly open. You sit on their lap, wrapping your legs around them.

Why many people love it:

• Lots of eye contact, kissing and touch – emotionally connecting as well as physical.
• You can rock your hips in small circles or forward–backward to explore what feels best inside.
• Your clitoris can rub against their pelvis or lower belly while you move.

Tip: If holding yourself up is tiring, sit slightly higher (on their thighs, not just their lap) or support your back with a headboard or pillows.

5. Thigh Ride (Thigh Tide) – A Grind-Friendly Twist

This is a variation of Reverse Cowgirl that puts grinding front and centre. Your partner lies on their back. You straddle them facing their feet. Now ask them to bend one knee so their foot is flat on the bed.

You can:

• Lower yourself onto their pelvis for penetration, while your clitoris rests near their raised thigh.
• Rock your hips so your clitoris rubs gently against their thigh or lower abdomen.
• Hold onto their knee or ankles for balance.

This position gives you the control of being on top, plus a firm surface to grind against — which many bodies respond to better than pure thrusting.

6. Rear Entry Lying Down – Easy Access for Toys & Clit

In this version of rear entry, you lie on your stomach while your partner lies on top and enters you from behind. It’s simple, secure and easy to maintain for longer sessions.

To make it more orgasm-friendly:

• Slide a narrow, firm pillow under your hips so you can gently grind your clitoris against it.
• Place a small vibrator between your body and the pillow, positioned over your clitoris.
• Keep your legs slightly apart if you want more movement, or closer together if you prefer a snugger feel.

Because your hands are free, you can also reach back to guide your partner’s pace or use your own fingers on your clitoris.

7. Missionary – The Classic, But Re-Designed for You

Missionary is often shown as “basic,” but you can absolutely turn it into a position that supports your orgasm.

Some ways to make it work for you:

• Slide a pillow under your hips to change the angle, bringing the front wall of your vagina and clitoris closer to your partner’s body.
• Use your fingers or a small curved vibrator on your clitoris while your partner moves slowly.
• Try a vibrating cock ring so the attached vibrator rests against your clitoris with each movement.

You’re allowed to modify “standard” positions as much as you want. If it increases your pleasure and you feel comfortable and safe, it’s valid.

Tips to Help You Orgasm More Easily During Sex

Positions help, but they’re only part of the picture. Your body, mind, mood and relationship all play a role. Here are gentle, practical tips you can use alongside any position:

1. Embrace Toys as Tools, Not “Cheats”

Vibrators, suction toys and other devices can make orgasm more accessible, especially if your clitoris prefers strong or consistent stimulation. They don’t replace a partner — they support both of you.

2. Include More Than Just Penetration

Penetration is only one type of stimulation. Many people need a mix of:

• Clitoral touch (fingers, tongue, toy)
• Kissing, nipple stimulation and whole-body touch
• Grinding or pressure rather than fast thrusting

You can absolutely orgasm from fingers, oral sex, toys or grinding – it’s all “real” sex.

3. Grind More, Thrust Less

For many vulva owners, orgasm comes from steady pressure, warmth and continuous contact with the clitoris, not intense “in-out” motion. Positions like Cowgirl, CAT and Thigh Ride are especially good for this.

4. Use Pillows as Your Secret Support Crew

Pillows under your hips, knees or back can:

• Lift your pelvis so sensitive areas get more contact.
• Reduce strain on your neck, lower back or thighs.
• Help you stay in a position long enough to relax into pleasure.

5. Don’t Rush Foreplay

The more aroused you are before penetration, the easier it usually is to orgasm during sex. Think of foreplay as the main event, not just a “warm-up.”

Ideas:

• Start with flirty or intimate messages during the day.
• Take a warm shower, oil your skin, wear something that makes you feel gorgeous.
• Spend time kissing, touching, exploring each other without pressure to “move on” quickly.

Orgasm Is Wonderful — But It Doesn’t Have to Be the Only Goal

It’s okay to want orgasm. It’s also okay if it doesn’t happen every single time. Sometimes focusing so hard on “getting there” creates stress, which actually makes orgasm harder to reach.

Instead, try asking yourself:

• Does this feel good right now?
• Am I comfortable and emotionally safe?
• Am I allowed to slow down, change positions, or take a break?

If the answer is yes, you’re already doing something deeply valuable for your body and mind, with or without a climax at the end.

Letting Go of Inhibitions

Worries about how your body looks, sounds, smells, or how long it takes you to orgasm can act like “brakes” on your desire. The more pressure you feel to perform, the harder it can be to relax into pleasure.

Some gentle ways to ease those brakes:

• Talk openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t.
• Set the mood in ways that help you feel safe and confident (lighting, music, shower, etc.).
• Remind yourself that needing toys, lube or more time does not make you “too much” or “not enough.”

Anyone who cares about you will want you to feel good — not just to “perform.”

A Final Reminder from Daisycle

If you struggle to orgasm during sex or masturbation, you are not alone, and you are not broken. Your body deserves curiosity, kindness and patience.

Use these positions as playful experiments, not pressure tests. Keep what works, ignore what doesn’t, and let your pleasure – not expectations – guide you.