Fingering yourself can be a gentle way to get to know your body, build confidence, and explore what kind of touch feels good to you. There is no “right” technique – only what feels safe, comfortable and pleasurable for you.

Getting Aroused, Turned On & In The Mood

Most people find touch feels better when their body and mind are already a bit aroused. If you go straight in while feeling stressed, tense or distracted, things may feel uncomfortable or “meh”. It’s not that your body is broken – it just needs time.

Things that can help:

• Relax first: Warm shower, deep breaths, stretching, or a short nap.
• Find privacy: A place where you won’t be interrupted – bedroom, locked bathroom, or anywhere you feel safe.
• Create a mood: Soft music, low light, a scented candle, a favourite T-shirt or lingerie – whatever helps you feel like “you”.
• Turn your mind on: Daydreaming, romance/erotic stories, memories of a nice moment, or your favourite crush. Use what feels right for you.

You don’t have to be “super horny” before you start. A little softness and curiosity is enough.

1. Basic Fingering – Gentle Internal Exploration

Safety first: Wash your hands, trim and file your nails, and use lubricant if you tend to feel dry.

Then:

• Start by touching the outer areas – thighs, hips, tummy – before moving to your vulva.
• Use a lubricated fingertip to explore the labia (the “lips” around the vaginal opening).
• When you feel ready, place your fingertip at the entrance and let your muscles slowly “invite” it in. There’s no rush and no target depth.
• Once inside, move your finger gently and slowly. Notice which direction or angle feels nicest.

Important: Fingering isn’t a test. If you only feel like exploring the outside today, that’s still valid and counts as self-exploration.

2. Exploring The Front Wall (The “G-Spot Area”)

Some people notice a slightly more sensitive area a few centimetres inside the vagina on the front wall (towards your belly). Many call this the “G-spot area”. For others it feels neutral – both are normal.

To explore it:

• With your finger inside and palm facing up (toward your belly), gently curl your fingertip towards the front wall.
• Feel for an area that may feel a bit more textured or spongy than the rest.
• Apply light pressure or small movements and see how your body responds.

You might notice a strong urge to pee when this area is stimulated. Emptying your bladder before you start can make this more comfortable. If the sensation is too intense or unpleasant, you can simply stop – you don’t have to “push through it”.

3. Adding Outside Pressure (Front Press Technique)

Sometimes this area feels better when there’s gentle pressure from both inside and outside.

You can try:

• One hand inside, touching the front wall.
• The other hand resting on your lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone.
• Gently pressing down with the outside hand while your inside finger maintains soft pressure or small movements.

This can make sensations stronger and easier to feel. Stop immediately if anything feels sharp, painful or “too much”.

4. Fingering From Behind

Another variation is reaching from behind instead of from the front:

• Bring your hand down your lower back, past your buttocks, and towards your vaginal opening.
• Insert a lubricated finger slowly and explore how the back wall of the vagina feels.

Some people like the different angle and body position; others don’t notice much difference. It’s simply another way to explore and see what your body prefers.

5. Combining Internal & External Touch (Double Your Fun)

Many people find a combination of internal and external stimulation more satisfying than one alone.

You can try:

• One hand inside, exploring the front wall or another pleasant area.
• The other hand on the outside, touching the clitoral area or labia in a way that feels good (soft circles, gentle pressure, or simple stillness).

Adjust speed, pressure and rhythm based on your own sensations. If your body starts to tense up or lose pleasure, slow down or pause.

6. Anal Exploration (Optional & Only If You Want To)

Some people enjoy gentle anal touch because there are many nerve endings around the anus. Others don’t enjoy it at all. Both reactions are valid.

If you’re curious, keep in mind:

• Use lots of lubricant – the anal canal does not self-lubricate.
• Go very slowly and listen closely to your body. There should be no sharp pain.
• Keep anal and vaginal play separate or wash/change anything that goes from anus to vagina to reduce infection risk.

You can combine anal exploration with external clitoral touch if that feels good, but it’s always optional. There is no requirement to enjoy or try anal play.

7. What Your Fingertips Can Do

Where your fingers are is one part; how you move them is another. You can experiment with:

• Stroking: Moving your fingertip back and forth along an area (e.g., front wall) with light to moderate pressure.
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• Press & hold: Gently pressing into a spot and holding for a few seconds before releasing..
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• Small circles or rubs: Keeping contact in one zone and making small circular or side-to-side movements.
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Try combining different movements: for example, slow strokes on the inside while your other hand makes soft circles over the clitoral area.

8. Putting It All Together

As you experiment, you’ll start to notice patterns:

• Positions where your hand feels less tired or awkward.
• Angles that feel more “right” for your body.
• Moments when you want more intensity – and moments when your body needs a pause.

There’s no rule that you must reach orgasm every time you touch yourself. Sometimes your body will build to a strong climax; sometimes it will just feel warm, relaxed and connected. Both outcomes are valid.

Final Thoughts: Your Body, Your Pace

Fingering yourself is not about ticking techniques off a list or matching some story you read online. It’s about getting to know your body’s yes, no, and maybe.

Take what feels useful from these ideas, leave what doesn’t, and move at your own pace. If at any point you feel pain, fear, or strong discomfort, it’s okay to stop, take a breath, or try again another time.

And if pain, burning or distress keep showing up whenever you try to explore internally, it’s worth talking to a healthcare professional. Sometimes pelvic floor tightness, infections, or hormonal changes can affect comfort – and you deserve answers and relief.

Bottom line: your pleasure, your boundaries, your timing. You’re allowed to explore your body in ways that feel safe, kind, and true to you.